where and when

Where and when they are time and place. How, what, and why these are the phrases that create our future, that shape our destiny.

When we are young we are asked what we want to be. As we get older, when we tell people what it is that we are going to do! they ask us how? hopefully, you had that one figured out. You must of had some sort of vision or purpose to what you were doing.

What about your why? did you know yours?
For most of us that’s easy, the money, I work for the money; money is my why for working.
No wonder money isn’t everything is a common saying or the love of money is the root of all evil.

What is the love of money anyway? Money is a tool. Do you love the tool or what the tool accomplishes? Although I do know a few carpenters that sleep with there hammers and I always cuttle up with my S.C.U.B.A tanks. And of course money is not everything; There’s aslo real estate, precious metals, jewels, stocks, cars, etc…

Money is a tool. Why do we aquire any tool. First, we have a need or a vision which serves as a purpose then we aquire the tool then action puts the tool to use.
When we do use money as our why; when do we stop? How much is enough? Carpenters have several different hammers, mechanics have all sorts of wrenches; even they have a limit on the tools needed.

I am not saying that you need to put a limit on the tools, hardly. I am asking you to expand your vision. If you want to be happy is simply being happy good enough, or do you like to spread the joy. The mechanic will run out of wrenches that he needs, luckily for him there is a whole range of tools for different jobs that he can learn to do.

Let us try something. Let us think about where we want to be at a certain time. What type of life do you want to live on a day to day? what is it that your creative self would like to accomplish? Don’t be shy, think about it, believe it. We were put here in this wonderful place with these amazing super computers called brains. “That’s all well and good but I don’t know how” Zig ziglar has a saying; If your why is big enough then the how does not matter.

One can live life like Forest Gump; “life is like a box of chocolates, you never know which one your going to get.” Or you can choose to go at life with vision and purpose, choosing which chocolate we would like to try, have a bite, take a taste, If it dosen’t resonate with you toss it grab another.

Which way do you live, do you simply except what life gives you no matter how bad it tastes or do you have a plan of action, short and long term goals that keep you moving forward each day.

To quote the master zig Ziglar; “if you do the things you ought to do when you ought to do them, then there will be a day when you can do the things tha you want to do when you want to do them.” We all grow up having dreams. As we get older we start to see all of the opportunity around us. With no vision time starts to slip away from us, our direction, may get lost in the wind simply going about our day to day. Too quote many of the greats (including zig) “We do not lack time, we lack motivation, action, discipline, determination, and persistance.”

Get out there, it’s a big world, read, observe, socialize. Become a scientist use your life as the labratory. Is there something that you have always wanted to learn, to do or try – a place in particular that you want to travel, an idea that is burning in your brain, write it down, plan it have clear definite aim, just do it. (ps yes thats a bundle of quotes of various sources)

Do some soul searching, find out who you are, what level of success do you need to achieve? Which steps do you need to get there?

My why is simply this: I must keep pushing for those who can’t, I am here becaue others pushed doors open for me. It is them that I strive for. The people that need help is why I won’t surrender.

Where are you happy, be there. If your why is strong enough; how is irrelevant. What; that’s up to you. When; look around you, your here. Experience your life, live in the moment, know your why.

First, a little background of the situation that I’m in. Two months ago I left my safe secure job as a commercial diver on the salmon farms.  I was doing a camp shift five days on and two days off.  As you can imagine that left little time for my 13 year old daughter or my wife.  The pay was good, but with all of the expenses we were just barely breaking even.  My dive medical was out of date and I had been wearing a very leaky “dry suit” for the past year, all my other gear was also due for servicing as well, my car is falling apart and I had procrastinated on getting a simple oil change for I don’t know how long.

My first week off we went to the city of Vancouver, BC, that’s where are family is, and there was a little business to attend too.  I don’t think I got anything done but it was a nice time with my closest friends and family and I got a lot of advice.

O.k I am set to get to work I said.  The next week it was time to see my mom in Victoria.  It’s O.k I thought I will just bring my books with me and study while I am down there.  Did I forget that I never could accomplish anything around my parents?  And the next week, well, camping season is almost over, I will be able to get some good reading done then.  What was I thinking? we invited my daughters friends, between driving everyone, making sure everybody was having fun, and the noise; peaceful reading time was non existent.  O.k so three weeks down that’s not too bad, where did the last six weeks go, what have I been doing with my time. I know this one! some call it fighting fires.  I have to make sure my daughter gets where she needs to be, do the shopping, the organizing, and sense the stress starts to build yes, the fighting as well. what does that accomplish I ask you? This one I can answer after 6 weeks of experiencing it, nothing, it accomplishes absolutely nothing.

When I was out at work I picked up a book every free moment, there was no computer or gadgets, so it was the books, I didn’t always have to be completely productive with my time, I still got paid. At home however I have not mastered the ability to be completely productive, my computer skills are lacking, my procrastination skills are top notch. I understand through studying the mindsets and the thought process that is needed to accomplish success, the doing, however, when the bills keep coming, when the family has another emergency problem, the doing, that is another story.

A lot of the time our problems come from our thoughts, e.g I said I am going to fall on my face in a speech contest and that is exactly what I did.  I looked as myself as not a good leader; lots to learn, nobody is going to want what I offer; and you know what happens exactly that, however, the only place that happened is in my mind, when I started to listen what others were saying about me (except my daughter of course) that is not the perception of me they got at all.

I find I write notes to my self and affirmations and such, they seem to actually cause me pain when I don’t accomplish them, there seems to be a barrier, that stops me from seeing all that I can be.  It has no problems in thinking about getting back into the diving industry, or the mining or some other job that I would hate, it has no problem with those options.

Please do not misunderstand me here I have had my share of both shitty and good jobs.  It’s not that I am unwilling to work, I love work, however, I have only done one type and that’s being a laborer and the biggest problem with that is not the work it is the mindset, it is the aggravating boredom of  having to be there, and what happens when we are constantly thinking negative thoughts, that’s right, they become the action. Instead of going home inspired full of vigorous energy, we go home tired and depressed, instead of a can do attitude it is definitely a can’t do attitude.

What’s the secret? well I don’t know that now, now do I or I would not be writing this, but I do know one thing, that writing this feels awesome like it’s one more step in the right direction, will it solve my money problems or stop my daughter from being 13? of course not.  However it is one small step to finding my passions to believing that I can live life on my own terms. will there be lots of trial and error? of course, when did we start looking at that as a bad thing.

One thing that I know is that our feeling create our thoughts and our thoughts create our actions.  I’m sure it’s a bit more complicated then that.  Let’s give it a shot for one week, let us only think positive things about ourselves.  Let’s plan our activities with only things that can get us one step further to our goal, and let the world see, what little ol’ wee can accomplish.

Go forth my friends let us conquer.

the um ah rant

 have been learning about the marketing industry for about a year now.

Here’s the biggest problem I see. There are way too many ums and ahs when it comes too information, way too many.  I am subscribed too this great program with great information, however, the amount of ums and ahs and thinking that I have to listen too, to get the information, quite frankly, gives me a headache, and the biggest problem with that is I can’t concentrate on the other things that enjoy doing.

Another problem I have is everything is so spread out, how much time in the day do we spend logging in and logging out all of the different platforms and websites. Are these not all forms of distractions that take our time, money and, energy, and is it really necessary.

When we pay for a program, why must they put up the sales call, cannot they be professionals about it and clean it up, give us the guts, k if its free or cheap then I understand, no I still don’t.  Why would leaders give such crumby service why must we listen to them blunder. why do us amateurs hesitate so much when the guys out there doing it are simply putting it out there, and call it passion.

My point is this 1) simply take action you probably already know enough or know where to find out 2) as leaders can we take a more professional approach to our business. 3) you may be the best in your niche, I still don’t wan to listen to you umm or ahh. 4) Be a leader join toastmasters or at least polish your recording  to avoid frying our brains so that we can be more productive.

a view of commitment

What is commitment? Do we really commit? Or is it something we just say? I know of countless projects that I have “committed” too and have just never completed.  Does that mean that I am not really committed to it can that project, maybe!
Commitment can come from two things: 1. it can be forced on us as in school or jail
2. Or it can come from decisive decision to do whatever it was that one committed too which takes discipline.

People talk all that time “oh he’s not committed he just does not get things done”  ”she just won’t honor her commitment.

Commitment too me is a vast subject, and I am committed to write this weather I like it and agree with it or not. Committed is not a fun word, I don’t believe it’s a positive word, it can produce positive results through positive action, but when in the world would we ever say oh, I’m committed with a big smile on our faces.

When we talk about people who are committed what are we talking about? Number 1 in the dictionary for the word commit means to do something wrong, bad, or illegal.  Number 3 for commitment in the dictionary sais a commitment is an engagement or duty that restricts freedom of action.  The word committal means the sending of someone to prison or psychiatric hospital, or for trial. the other meaning is the burial of a corpse.  Do these definitions sound positive to you? not to me. Why would any body commit to anything.

What is commitment? Do we really commit? Or is it something we just say? I know of countless projects that I have “committed” too and have just never completed.  Does that mean that I am not really committed to it can that project, maybe!

Commitment can come from two things: 1. it can be forced on us as in school or jail
2. Or it can come from decisive decision to do whatever it was that one committed too which takes discipline.

People talk all that time “oh he’s not committed he just does not get things done”  ”she just won’t honor her commitment.

Commitment too me is a vast subject, and I am committed to write this weather I like it and agree with it or not.  Committed is not a fun word, I don’t believe it’s a positive word, it can produce positive results through positive action, but when in the world would we ever say oh, I’m committed with a big smile on our faces.

When we talk about people who are committed what are we talking about? Number 1 in the dictionary for the word commit means to do something wrong, bad, or illegal.  Number 3 for commitment in the dictionary sais a commitment is an engagement or duty that restricts freedom of action.  The word committal means the sending of someone to prison or psychiatric hospital, or for trial. the other meaning is the burial of a corpse.  Do these definitions sound positive to you? not to me.  Why would any body commit to anything?

intention

what is it about intention that gets in our way?  I intended to do all sorts of things that for some reason I can never get done.  I intended to write more, read more, learn another language, the desire is there, isn’t that enough.  The greats talk about a burning desire that’s our force that we can achieve anything if our desire is strong enough. Does desire and intent create action or resistance. That burning desire that the great Napolean Hill writes about, what is it without direction.

As I write this I am simply writing, I keep thinking to myself to stop and research a little more get into the nitty gritty of think and grow rich. Is that the action of simply being busy, it’s wonderful to learn and to get involved with our passions, is there a limit though?  Yes, I believe there is.  We must get our work done first.  As creative individuals we have a duty, an honor a code to uphold, and that is to create. while you are in the creative mode let your muse take over, we can re-write or correct later.  When we simply sit down like I am doing here the idea process flows its coming to me at such a rapid pace, the intensity is exciting and my only wish is that my ogerish fingers good keep up with my overzealous imagination.

So with that I encourage you to sit down every morning, write from the heart, do your work, find time to do the corrections later, make time to study the greats write notes, take action, if your anything like me you learn by doing and you need to jump in, there countless videos, webinars, and such and even though they may teach us something, are they merely a distraction from the work that we could be doing.  Zig Ziglar has a saying;  ”we must learn to say no to the good so that we can say yes to the best”.

How do we know whats best, do not over think this, go with your gut, your intuition, turn off the noise listen, to what your mind and body tell you.  When we are going with the flow of the universe life is easy, it’s not difficult, and the precious gifts and moments in our life simply show up.

And with that I wish you a great night, my stomach is rumbling and eating is what would feel good at this moment.